You want to change your job after 3 years of hard work without a raise? Want to leave and feel the cost is high? Do you want to change jobs if it is inconsistent with the boss's values?
Self-growth of people in the workplace should be oriented towards the realization of strengths, and action plans should be formulated in conjunction with daily work scenarios, rather than deep analysis of everything. If it is indeed necessary to conduct deep analysis of certain issues, it should also be tailored to the specific issues, with a focus on solving problems and removing constraints, rather than just encouraging growth.
If you want to go smoothly in the workplace, you must understand some of the most basic workplace rules. Otherwise, you may lose your job and ruin your future.